I once heard a story about a woman addressing a group; her subject was gut instinct.

One day, she was leaving her house for a busy morning. As she locked her door, something told her she’d better go back and unplug her old toaster. But she was running late and had left the toaster plugged in before without an event, so she didn’t go back inside.

By the time she got home, the toaster had shorted out, started a fire, and burned down her house.

So, she told the group, now she always listens to―and trusts―what she called her “toaster voice.”

I’ll bet every one of us has a story of failing to trust our gut with unfortunate results (though hopefully less drastic than our homes burning down!). Conversely, we all have stories about the benefits of trusting our gut.

Albert Einstein wrote: “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.”

But how do we ensure it’s really our intuitive mind―which is another way of saying our gut, or our instincts―we are hearing and trusting?

Trusting our gut effectively requires understanding ourselves better. We need to discern the difference between our instincts and our reactions, which are not always the same. All of us have our preferences and biases―and, while as business owners we are allowed to take the former into account, we should be careful to filter the latter out to the extent we can.

This discernment is a skill, and like any other learned skill, developing it takes practice.

The first step is to slow down (especially if you’re feeling rushed―that’s not a good place from which to make what might be a significant decision) and listen to what that inner voice is telling us.

But it can be hard to slow ourselves down, in today’s mad rush of the world – and methods that work for one of us may not be the best method for another. Further, methods that are near-perfect for us sometimes may not be what we need at other times.

Some things that have helped me to slow down and be more mindful include:

• Meditation
• Prayer
• Regular exercise
• Making sure not to over-schedule my time
• Taking time away from work on a regular basis
• Not making snap decisions―taking a moment to breathe―and to think
• Making decisions from a place of strength and peace, and not when I’m feeling down, stressed, or annoyed

When we have slowed ourselves to a strong, peaceful and mindful place, we can try to hear what our gut is really telling us and go from there.

Does our inner voice make us hesitate to say “yes” to something? Then, let’s not say it – at least not right away. Not until we determine what our reservations are, and what part of ourselves they arise from.

Maybe saying “yes” in this instance means embracing something that doesn’t truly align with our values or beliefs – and that could be a good reason to say “no” instead.

But perhaps we’re hesitant to jump into something new and a little afraid to trust ourselves to take that on successfully. In this case, we need to analyze whether those fears are well-founded or not. It might be that this is not a good fit for us after all. Or it might be that we’re fearful but have no good reason to think we can’t master this concern―if we choose to.

Some reactions may stem from our not being well-rested or not having eaten well – a healthy gut speaks more clearly and confidently than an ill-fed one. There’s a reason we call it a “gut reaction!”

If we’re in a state of anxiety, exasperation, or anger, we may not be able to discern what our gut is telling us – these moods throw up a lot of static that may be hard for us to hear through.

Therefore, the time to trust our gut is when we know what it’s telling us and separate it from any other impulses or feelings we may have.

And we will make errors as well as good choices in trying to discern what our true instinct is saying. It takes practice, and practice means both trial and error.

But as we gain ease in identifying what our gut is really saying from these mistakes and successes, we get better at making decisions that reflect our values and lead to better outcomes based on what our deepest self is telling us.

“A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials.” — Seneca

How do you determine what your gut is really telling you?

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Until next time –

Peace,

Eric